I have a confession.
I hate the word stress.
I don’t know if I have mentioned this or not, but I in all physicality hate the word-stress.
I just hate it. I hate the way it sounds, the way it is spelt, heck I also hate typing it out in this piece.
Having said that, why is it that we let the S word get the better of us? I mean, I know we all have a million things to do in the world of today: we have a job, we may be studying, our families might be keeping us busy, but why is that no matter how much we try, no matter how much we organize and plan, we end up letting the feeling of being overwhelmed get to us?
As I have mentioned a while ago, I have been experiencing my own definition of the S word. Which I thought I was super-human enough to never let it get to me.
But the past 1 month, however, helped me realized a few things on how to help fight (in all actuality, and not to be taken lightly) the dreaded word in the most surprising ways.
For the fear of this sounding like a: Top 100 Ways for You to Combat Crazy- type of piece. I am going to do this in the way I usually do.
I would like to comfortably converse with you, as if we were in a coffee shop somewhere and the waiter just gave us our hot chocolate (or coffee if you prefer) with extra whipped cream.
I never realized the value of being alone time till I started working. And your work-friends-and family all demanded equal attention. At the same time.
I took it for granted when I was in school/college because I was just used to having all this free time for myself where I was not convinced to spend it any other way.
But being by yourself really, really, helps in putting things into perspective. They help bring a sense of clarity since you are immersed in your thoughts and your brains puzzles in the things you have to do without anyone else clouding your judgment.
Now having said that, the next cookie bit might surprise you…
I told you about the importance of being by yourself for a while, but not cutting yourself off from your social life.
There is a difference in being along to be able to think and find clarity, and being with your friends and family to stop thinking and chill out.
In other words, de-stress. (Ohh, there goes that word again)
Talking to people around you and simply hanging out with people can also help your brain pause all the thoughts that were bothering you, even if it’s for a little while.
And once your subconscious is finished marinating it, hopefully you can revisit the same thoughts with a refreshed energy. Which can in turn solve them faster.
Now I am taking ambient, in definition of ambiance. Or, simply put, change in your environment.
I am pretty sure you must have all heard of how a change in your surroundings helps you think clearer and better because you are no longer stuck in the framework of a constant.
But movement helps. Here, it can include going for a walk to placing your desk on the other side of the room. But a positive change is welcomed.
Now it’s up to you to consider it as a permanent one or merely temporary and situational.
If it’s meant to be, it will find its way.
Trust me on this one.
In trying to end this piece, I realized something.
Calm and clarity may not be realized as the same thing. Nor does it mean the same for some.
Some people can find calm in a room full of people, laughing and dancing the night away. And as they set themselves apart for that split second of a moment, and by merely observing the happy atmosphere around them, they can find that moment of calm.
Similarly, clarity cannot be categorized as something you will find after pondering over something for hours and hours together. It’s not a result of over thinking, calculating and speculating. It can be a realization or an epiphany of sorts that helps you resolve something and feeling satisfied about it after.
What I mentioned above is not a rule of how to bring in calm and clarity, but merely a projection of what you can do.
Sometimes I find calm and clarity after writing.
Like this piece.
May you always find that moment of euphoric clarity, when you need it the most,