Love is probably the most complicated emotion to grace the human race.
It is highly regarded, sought after, but also the most misunderstood. No one knows what love means till you experience it for yourself.
Unfortunately, mainstream media uses this subjectivity to dictate the definition of love as having a member of the opposite sex to call your own and help harbor certain emotions. It refers to this person as your ‘special someone’.
It does not give enough attention to the critical aspects of love, which we all seem to forget. It disregards other folds of love that makes us who we are. It completely neglects the fact that love can be found in other things and not just in a partner.
I am referring to the love for friends, pets and, most importantly, your family.
I am also referring to the love for inanimate objects and intangible things.
Don’t they count too?
Love for another person (or people) despite your ‘special someone’ should be given the attention it deserves. It should be explicitly called out that romantic love is not the sole proprietor of the world of love. There are other parts too.
Aspects which can sometimes be more important than romantic love.
Well, god forbid, but if your ‘special someone’ decides to abandon your love boat, who comes paddling with ice cream and scary movies? That’s right, Friendship love.
Or when you argue with your one and only, and frustration comes raining down in the form of tears, who hugs you and supports you and tells you that they aren’t good enough for you? That’s right, Parental love.
And if you are having a really crappy day, you live alone and your dearest is unavailable to hear you out because of reason #123, who is the eternal ball of sunshine that cheers you up and animatedly wags their tail and jumps on you till you smile? That’s right, Pet love.
So why do we restrict Valentine’s Day to a day of couple love? Why don’t we choose to celebrate it with all kinds of love? Don’t they deserve to be celebrated too?
Aside from living objects, haven’t we ever fallen in love with inanimate objects?
Here’s a thought: What if you can love a non-living object as much as you can love a living object? Or if not as much, then at least comparably?
What if you are having a secret affair with your gaming console? I probably have a fling going on with my Kindle, and sometimes my phone (which I should probably break up with. It’s not healthy for the both of us and we know it. Maybe we can still be objects with benefits), but I see nothing wrong with that.
I believe that inanimate objects respect you as far as you treat them right. They harness an energy from you, and choose to serve you the same. Why do you think people can’t get over their first phone or car?
As long as you don’t cross the line that leads to materialism and obsession, this love is no different. I am telling you, it’s a love worth giving a shot.
And finally we come to the most influential kind of love.
The kind of love that can take over your senses and drive you crazy and make you wonder whether reason and logic still exist.
And that’s the love of intangible articles.
A thought, an emotion, a dream or even a memory.
Why doesn’t anyone consider the magnitude of how much they can affect you?
Falling in love with a memory can hurt you, but falling in love with a dream can inspire. Doesn’t anyone see that loving and nurturing an idea can inspire and motivate you to make it a success? Why doesn’t anyone pay attention to this kind of love, which can help you more than you can imagine?
Why doesn’t anyone notice these kinds of love?
The realest kinds of love?
Why are we stuck to just one kind?
Why don’t we explore the facets of love that can help us grow as a person? Why don’t we understand that these sides should be explored just as much as others?
We have dating sites, and the technology for matchmaking businesses. So much effort goes into seeking just one kind of love, but why doesn’t anyone make an effort to find other kinds of love? Who said one was ever enough anyway?
I mean, it’s great to have someone to love, and it’s nice to have them love you back, but that shouldn’t be the sole way to judge the emotion. There is more to it.
If you put yourself out there as society dictates, you are guaranteed to find just one kind of love. But if you look around you, in what you have, and really see things for what they are, you might just find much more.
And that I can assure you, is a love that's worth yours.
May you fall in love with life,