First post of 2017!
Are you excited?
I am excited!
(A little too excited)
And initially I wanted to do a ‘goals not resolutions’ post, updating my current goals for this year, but changed my mind last minute because following to what I said in my last year’s post… I want to write a little differently going forth.
And so I am.
Now with the onset of an exciting new year, everyone claims that you can make a new start and reinvent yourself (I love that phrase) in this new chapter of your life. A clean slate. A brand new notebook. A fresh, squeaky clean do-over that no one can take away from you.
People tell you to follow your dreams this year, be positive about life, imbibe healthy and good habits, do this, do that. Repeatedly, media clouds you with content that supposedly instructs how you can have a happier and better new year and most of them end their piece with this one phrase that gets to me:
Don’t forget to be yourself.
Wha, hold up. Here you are telling me I should do more of this, less of this, more of that and definitely lesser of that, and then you wind it up by asking me to be myself? If I wanted to be the way I was, why would I even read your piece in the first place? Like, how does that make any sense?
And then it got me thinking.
How many of us truly know how to ‘Be Ourselves’? How do we define our original personality when people around us always keep correcting us? Most importantly, how do we know what factors about us we need to work on, or if they need any work at all?
I don’t know about you, but with the turn of recent events, I don’t think I know how to ‘Be Myself’ anymore. I am not sure what defines me. I know what my likes and dislikes are, that’s the easy part, but I am not sure what makes me, me.
And I wonder, was it always like this? Or have I just forgotten myself? Did I let the people around me influence my decisions and mold the way I think to the extent where I don’t know if it was me thinking it or them? Was I making collective mindset choices for myself, or was I just influenced by my environment telling me different things, just to dilute my own way of thinking?
Ah, what an eventful first week of the New Year already.
But I have been thinking long and hard about the type of person I want to become when 2017 comes to a close, and one thing on the list definitely means discovering how to be myself again. And I figured there is no better way to start by just doing things I like to do, and sticking to my opinions on matters. I have never let people sway the way I think, but I am a strong believer of sound advice from the ones that matter. Maybe this year I can try making up my own mind and sticking to those choices no matter what.
I want to rediscover myself again. Not because I am not happy with the person I am right now, but because I want to bring back a little bit of magic back into who I was. You know, find out what I love about myself, know more about my preferences and work on any weaknesses I can spot. Just do things and include myself into scenarios that not only make me happy, but make the people around me happy too.
And how do you do that?
I am glad you asked.
Don’t spend time with yourself. Invest time in yourself. Read quality content. Not celebrity gossip. Spend more time looking up at the sky. Lesser time looking down at your phone. Start using pencils and papers again. Notice your handwriting. Stop binge eating. Start savoring your food. Portion your food. Cut down on sugar. Find healthier alternatives. Play more games. Especially video games. Do things that make you happy. Write more. Journal more. Read more. Think more. Absorb more. Be present in the moment. Don’t let it slip away. Bask in it. Be aware of it. Smile more. Even if you don’t feel like it. Be lazy. Once in a while. Stop.
For a while. But start moving even faster afterwards. Don’t be afraid to try new things. Start cleaning up more. Stop cluttering. Breathe more. Then take deeper breathes. Wash your hair properly. Take care of your physique too. Minimalize the things you use. Invest in more quality things. Stop impulse buy. Especially clothes shopping. But not with books. You can never have enough books. Buy books. Lots of books. Notebooks too. Dress up when you feel like it. Dress down if you feel like it. Buy a big chunky-fluffy-will-make-you-happy-sweater and wear it when you ever feel low. Drink lesser caffeine. Drink more water. So much water. Talk to more people. Listen even more. Have more meaningful conversations. Stop saying ‘what’s up’. Start asking more questions. Listen after that. I know I said it twice. That’s how important it is. Stand up for yourself. Speak up. But learn when to not.
Be more grateful. And most importantly… believe that whatever happens, happens for the best.
May you have a fulfilling 2017,