Before I begin this piece, I would just like to say that I have nothing against people who like to catch up over some drinks at a local bar. If you are into that sort of thing, then why not? As long as you are having a good time, who cares what the liquid consumption is. (Stay in school kids!)
But much, much before I learned the importance of a good coffee (read: hot chocolate) catch up session with friends, I always had a fascination for the magnificent atmosphere of cafés.
Simply put, I love cafés. I love the environment, I love the hustle and bustle of the space and the purposeful environment of the people around me.
Sometimes the food doesn’t really live up to the standards, and sometimes the drinks can be very pricey, but hey! As long as they have hot chocolate, I am not complaining.
I especially like the fact how people have built these little corners for themselves, where each corner has a completely different story and purpose. Some can be job interviews, some can be people on dates, some can be business meetings, some can be writing their next bestseller, and some can also be the content individual, sitting in a coffee shop, enjoying a good book.
All these worlds of thoughts and pools of ideas, collectively coming together in one café space.
Amazing, isn’t it?
Now you may ask, where did my love for coffee shop sessions come from in the first place?
Well, when I was in college, I found myself speaking to a lot of people. A lot of people. I was meeting practically someone new every single day. And as much as I liked conversing with them, I did not like the fact that I never really get to speak to them about anything more than basic levels of conversation.
And if you know me, you would know that shallow conversation rank as number 1 on my list of things I don’t like (books about war and hardships ties a close second). So I did what any other person would do, I would invite them for coffee (read: hot chocolate). And in the process, I realized something wonderful, that when I did do so, I got to speak to them one-on-one discovering a completely new side of them that I did not know existed in their college personas.
And I loved it.
I also realized a couple of other things.
These wonderful people showcase a unique side of themselves when they are brought into a coffee shop environment. I often find people relax and actually talk to each other than scrolling through their cellphones.
And since you have nothing to do but to drink your beverage and talk, your attention is also more focused on the person you are talking to.
Coffee shop dates unspokenly strengthen friendships this way.
They focus your attention and time to the people in your company. And in the fortunate-unfortunate digital age we fall under, this is not a very common thing anymore. Being in someone’s presence and getting their complete attention and care to your own personal thoughts is now a rarity. Coffee shops according to me, present this rarity as a possible scenario.
You get to know the other person better, you get to connect with them better, and you get to discover a whole new side of them that might not be so obviously visible with other people.
And more than anything else, the quality of your conversations reach a different plane altogether. You jump from wonderful topic to another topic, you also learn so much about a different perspective of life from the other person.
You have long meaningful conversations with them, baring your own soul and learning more about theirs. And who knows? Coffee shops can be the start of something amazing. Maybe even love. Maybe a new lifelong friend. The possibilities are endless.
So I urge you, dear reader. Treat yourself to something more inspiring, give your daily shallow conversations a deeper layer, take a good trusty friend and visit a nearby coffee shop on a beautiful rainy Saturday. Curl up on a nice couch, with a frothy hot drink in your hands and indulge in what can be, a treat for your soul.
May you feel the coziness of café’s,