Sometimes I can be ridiculously superstitious.
I used this pen to write my last test and got a good grade. I need to use this pen for all my future tests!
I’m not even ashamed of it. Well, sometimes I am. For the most part, however, I believe that superstitions form a special part of learning how to practice consistent habits in life.
Now, everyone is at least a little bit superstitious. We don’t want to admit it, but we all have a little bit of mambo-jambo we believe in, and the reassurance that it will bring us good luck.
It can be a lucky shirt, a lucky pen, exiting the car from the left side, a lucky pen, wearing your right basketball shoe first, before a major game, a lucky pen, or even performing a small action like clicking your heels together before walking into a big presentation.
Did I mention it can also be a lucky pen?
And it’s not wrong for us to believe in these things! Who cares what anyone else thinks? It makes us feel secure, it makes us feel good, and most importantly, it makes us feel lucky.
So, aside from delving into these superstitions, there is one particular thing which I hope I am not alone in.
The fear of being so very happy, that your happiness quota exhausts itself, and leaves you with the possibility of facing some form of hardship to keep your life in balance.
Simply put, you’re afraid of being too happy, because every time you get super happy, something bad always happens afterwards.
And here is where that logic comes from.
Just like everything else in this world, there needs to be a balance. Rights and wrongs, karma, the yin and the yang, villains and superheroes and stuff like that. There needs to be a negative charge to your positive charge. Because one cannot exist without the other. That’s just how the universe functions.
Now before you discard this as hog-wash, think about it.
Most importantly, think about how much it limits your ability to be completely and blissfully happy.
Every time something good happens to you, you are now held back by the thought that something bad will follow. So you don’t cash into the happiness, and you bring negativity into the picture.
What’s the point of all this? Something bad is going to happen anyway.
But don’t forget to look at it alternatively.
If something bad happens to you, you can expect good things to follow since the world needs to balance itself!
It’s the rainbow after the heavy rain, but similarly, it can also be perceived as the calm before the storm. It depends on how you understand things and your takeaway from the situation.
I am not going to lie. I am one of these believers. I think everything needs to be balanced. I hold back the happiness I feel, so that I don’t expect a repercussion once the moment passes.
What if happiness just tricks our pessimistic side into showing up? What if every time we are faced with a happy situation, we automatically tell ourselves to start looking at the negatives of it first?
Isn’t that dangerous? Because then you will always look at the bad side of things. Heck, you may even train your brain to associate good things with bad emotions first, like fear or anxiety of what the future will hold.
So I ask you, how do you combat the fear of being too happy?
Wishing you a very heavy side of happiness,