I can personally vouch and attest to the power of a good conversation.
A conversation so good, that you just cannot wait to speak to that person again. Curious to know where your words will lead you, what you can build from it, and most importantly, how the other person’s thought processes are and why does their method of thinking mysteriously appeal to you.
And it can all start from something as simple as video games.
Ohkay, so let’s face it. Not many people give the power of conversation the credit its due.
New relationships are first made by swiping right and on the basis of your hair being on point in your profile picture.
Heck, you can probably have the best conversation on Omegle, but it will instantly end the moment the other person switches their camera on.
And the worse part of it all is that, I do it too. And I am ashamed to admit it, but it’s all about perspective. Not to mention the truth.
People first judge you on how you look and then make the effort if they should pursue a conversation with you or not.
You can be a brilliant, well-read, wisdomous son of a thesaurus, but if you don’t look like an Instagram depiction of ‘Hot men reading’ then clearly, you don’t deserve to be given a chance.
Well, the bright side to that is it can go the other way too.
A person can be the perfect sight for sore eyes, but the moment they open their mouth, you turn the other way and prefer conversing with a goat instead. In Chinese.
All of this boiling down to, why is wo/mankind so suppressed by their idea of an ideal conversation, happening with their ideal looking guy or girl?
Can’t it happen with the local transportation guy? Can’t you converse with the receptionist? Why can’t it also happen with the cleaning lady?
Because trust me when I say this, not only is conversation a brilliant thing, but it also serves to be this story book of experiences that you can’t just Google up.
These are all fresh, inspiring, eye opening perspectives that can enrich your conceptions about everyday life. They can be the fuel that sparks your joie de vie.
They can also be the perfect therapy if you feel a little unsettled about yourself. Nothing serves to be the perfect cure than a good, comforting talk with someone you trust.
If only one were to be given a chance.
But what makes a good conversation? Deep, meaningful talks about the universe and existence of a supernatural being? Or is it something as simple as what you ate and how that turned into a funny story?
That’s the thing. No one knows what makes a good conversation except the people that were involved in it. And that’s also the best part. If it’s between people, then it can bind relationships and make them stronger. And also have the power to spark interest and even love.
But what’s the difference between small talk and a great talk? They can both be about the weather, except only one can leave you awe struck, and a little more knowledgeable. Then again, it can also gauge on interest, and how two people are making the effort in contributing to a conversation at hand.
Now I am not saying to go talk to everyone, (hello there stalker sir, how do you feel about life today?) the safety bit is a given, but give everyone you meet a chance and then decide if they deserve the effort of establishing a new relationship with. And I promise to do that too. Judge lesser, misconceive lesser, and most importantly, stereotype lesser.
Because you have no idea the abundance of memories you can be missing out. A person you refuse to talk to could have been your sapiosexual soulmate. She/he could have been a person with who you can have the most ideal, hilarious, memorable conversations with at 4 a.m.
And who knows? You could have missed out talking to The One.
So the next time you meet someone new, given them the benefit of the conversation, speak to them over a cup of hot chocolate in a café, a mug of ice cold beer in a pub, or even on a deck of a boat in another country. Test what they have to offer to you on the basis of something more genuine.
You won’t regret it.
Wishing you good conversations that build relationships to last a lifetime,